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What Happens When Marriages End

A comprehensive look at divorce outcomes based on longitudinal research, demographic studies, and real-world data. This is what most people don't know before they marry.

Why This Information Matters

Most people enter marriage with significant blind spots about what dissolution actually looks like. Popular culture, well-meaning advice, and our own optimism create a gap between expectations and reality.

This page synthesizes findings from:

  • Longitudinal studies tracking individuals and families for decades (Wallerstein, Amato, Hetherington)
  • Demographic research on divorce patterns and outcomes
  • Family law practice observations and court outcome data
  • Mental health and public health research on post-divorce wellbeing

Important Context:

These outcomes are population-level findings. Not everyone experiences every outcome. But the patterns are consistent enough that anyone considering marriage should understand them. Knowledge is not pessimism—it's informed consent.

Key Research Findings

Child Outcomes

  • • Reduced father-child contact in most cases
  • • Long-term effects on emotional security
  • • Children often hold hope for reconciliation years later
  • • Impact persists into adult relationships

Legal & Custody

  • • Courts have broad discretion
  • • Custody outcomes can be unpredictable
  • • High-conflict cases lead to prolonged litigation
  • • Private agreements often don't hold

Financial Impact

  • • 30% average drop in living standards
  • • Financial insecurity persists 10-15 years
  • • Retirement savings severely impacted
  • • Legal costs can be substantial

Emotional & Health

  • • Persistent anger and grief 10+ years later
  • • Increased depression and anxiety rates
  • • Physical health deterioration documented
  • • Second marriages have higher instability

Informed Consent Matters

Understanding these realities isn't pessimism—it's preparation. The best marriages are entered into with open eyes, not blind optimism.